{"product_id":"how-to-be-an-adult-in-love","title":"How To Be An Adult In Love By Richo, David","description":"\u003cb\u003eHow to let love into our lives, and how to express that love to the  world at large—the latest from a best-selling author.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe  were made to love and be loved. Loving ourselves and others is in our  genetic code. It’s nothing other than the purpose of our lives—but  knowing that doesn’t make it easy to do. We may find it a challenge to  love ourselves. We may have a hard time letting love in from others.  We’re often afraid of getting hurt. It is also sometimes scary for us to  share love with those around us—and love that isn''t shared leaves us  feeling flat and unfulfilled.  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDavid Richo provides the tools  here for learning how to love in evolved adult ways—beginning with  getting past the barriers that keep us from loving ourselves, then  showing how we can learn to open to love others. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe first  challenge is  that we have a hard time letting love in: recognizing it,  accepting it  from others. We''re afraid of it, of getting hurt. The  second, related  problem is that we''re unable to share love with those  around us--and  love that isn''t shared isn''t truly love. The first step  to learning to  love and be loved, according to Richo''s model, is to  identify the  different levels of love so that you can hit each one  separately. He  breaks it down to three:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e   • Level  One:  Positive Connection. As simple as being courteous, respectful,  helpful,  and honest, and decent in all our dealings. Pretty basic, but  it makes  the world a better place, and it''s the essential foundation for   growing in love. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e   • Level Two: Caring and Personal  Connection. Intimacy and commitment to friends, family, partners,  lovers. Commitment to others. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e   • Level  Three: Unconditional  and Universal. Transcending the love of  individuals to the love of all  beings; self-sacrificing. The love  expressed in the Sermon on the Mount  and the Bodhicharyavatara. This  level of love isn''t for a heroic few,  it''s everyone''s calling. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHe  then shows us how to incorporate  these varieties of love into our  lives.  It''s a relief to know that  even just aspiring to incorporate  them really changes things. He also  provides exercises and guided  meditations for identifying and getting  through the things that keep you  from  getting and giving love at each  of these three levels.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThrough  the lens of these types of love,  Richo covers topics such as: how  to still be yourself while loving  another; how to embrace your dark  side; what to do when the one who  loves you dies; need versus fear;  clinging; healthy sexuality,  including fantasies and how to experience  pleasure without guilt; how  to break distructive patterns in your  relationships; and how to have  safe conversations with your loved one.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRicho provides wisdom  from Buddhism, psychology, and a range of spiritual  traditions, along  with a wealth of practices both for avoiding the  pitfalls that can  occur in love relationships and for enhancing the way  love shows up in  our lives. He then leads us on to love’s inevitable  outcome: developing  a heart that loves universally and indiscriminately.  This transcendent  and unconditional love isn’t just for a heroic few, Richo shows, it’s  everyone’s magnificent calling.","brand":"MediaPlace","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":57640190148990,"sku":"NW9781611800814","price":13.59,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1379\/1261\/files\/9781611800814.jpg?v=1783103378","url":"https:\/\/mediaplace.com\/products\/how-to-be-an-adult-in-love","provider":"MediaPlace","version":"1.0","type":"link"}